BAKIT BA ANG DAMING NASASAKTAN?

Alam kong hindi niya ito nababasa kasi wala silang malakas na wifi sa bahay nila at hindi naman siya nagbabasa ng ilang mga gawa ko. Ayos lang.

Mahal ko siya dahil bukod sa magsisiyam na taon na kami, hindi ko nakita sa kanya na dapat na mawala ang respeto ko sa kanya. Mahal ko siya dahil iyon na iyon talaga. Una ko siya, una niya rin ako at sana kami na talaga.

Mas lalong minamahal ko siya sa mga lumilipas na araw, sa mga panahong marami akong ginagawa at sumasagi siya sa isipan ko, nakikita ko siya sa mukha ng ibang mga babaeng nakakaharap ko lalo sa mga kababaihang lumalapit sa akin para magsabi ng kanilang problema tungkol sa kanilang relasyon.

Nalulungkot ako para sa ilang mga taong nasasaktan dahil sa pag-ibig. Iyong mga taong nagtiwala at nirespeto yung mga mahal nila sa mga pag-aakalang ibabalik sa kanila iyon o kahit hindi man umasa pero wala ni isa man natanggap mula sa pagmamahal na ibinato nila. Kahit hindi ka umasa na ibabalik iyon sa iyo, masakit pa rin di ba na kahit papaano walang ganti sa mga ipinakita mong maganda.

Nalulungkot ako ngayon dahil may kakilala akong nagsabi ng problema niya sa akin at nararamdaman ko yung sakit na naranasan niya sa boyfriend niya. Iyon ang bagay na ayokong makita ko sa girlfriend ko, iyong umiyak, malungkot, masaktan, at isipin na wala na siyang halaga dahil ipinagpalit siya sa mas bata at mas sexy na babae. Alam mo iyon? Kung tunay kang nagmamahal hindi mo na aasahan iyon na forever na maganda ang girlfriend mo, yung kagwapuhan mo hindi rin naman iyan magtatagal. Masarap sa pakiramadam, OO, na habulin ka ng iba o may taong magkagusto sa iyo, pero hindi sapat iyon para ipagpalit mo yung taong tumanggap sa'yo noong mga panahon mukha kang alien o mukhang unding. Yung taong tumanggap sa'yo nang buo. Kaya nakakainis lang kung maghahanap ka pa ng iba kung mayroon naman taong nagmamahal sa'yo.

Nakakalungkot lang na may iba na hindi pa sapat sa kanila yung ginagawa ng mga mahal nila. Nagpapadala sila sa bugso ng damdamin na kung minsan sa huli, pagsisisihan din nila. Yung iba, oo naging masaya dahil may rason naman ang kanilang paghihiwalay, pero yung mga taong wala namang ginagawang masama? Kawawa naman di ba.

Ayokong makita ang girlfriend ko yung ganito, although may mga pagkukulang rin ako dahil kung minsan sa pressures at nawawalan ng oras, pero hindi ko pa rin naman nakakalimutan ang bumawi at lalong-lalo na yung maghanap ng iba sa oras na hindi niya ako nakikita sa mga ginagawa ko.

Bakit ba kasi ang daming nasasaktan? Siguro kasi iyon yung bagay na dapat mong maramdaman bilang tao para malaman mo ang halaga ng pagmamahal sa susunod na magkakaroon ka muli ng karelasyon.

Ano masasabi mo? Kasi iisa lang itong point of view ko. Willing akong makinig. Share your thoughts!

Sito Longges

TIRED BUT HAPPY

What's keeping me on doing my profession? Look below:

Message on 30th day from my a nonpsych student

Message on 30th day from my a nonpsych student

This status was posted last January 27.

These are the few things that keep me loving my job. I love teaching as much as I love my field. In this field, I could travel from different places and at the same time doing what I love, sharing the word of Psychology.

This is my passion and I will never cease to spread the beautiful things about my field, about the wonderful and ugliest part of being human.

Sito Longges

My Alma Mater

I missed my school. Hahaha. Fortunately, I am accepted as a faculty member of my alma mater which means I could visit it once a week. :)

I took this image while my students were
taking their midterm examinations

I took this image while my students were
taking their midterm examinations

I miss the noise of this school. :) 

Magtiwala Ka, Huwag Kang Magduda

Kailangan mo kasi munang maniwala sa sarili mo, magtiwala ka. Ibulong mo sa sarili mo bago matulog at sa pagharap mo ng salamin tuwing gigising ka. Hindi mo magagawa ang isang bagay kung nagdududa ka sa kakayahan mo.

Hindi lahat itinuturo sa pamantasan. Kung minsan kailangan mong matuto sa sarili mong mga paa dahil kung hindi, baka magulat ka.

Sito Longges

Busy Bee

Doing my thesis all over again. T.T
I keep on reminding myself that after these, things will be better! :D

Sito Longges

Quotes #29

FULFILLING DAY

I am grateful today. Two of my students were happy that I helped them with their personal problems. There is no other way that can replace this kind of feeling, this kind of happiness and contentment. I felt like really good.

I know, this is the reason why I took up Psychology as my course and took the path where I am right now. Simply, I want to help someone and to touch the lives of other people.

Sito Longges

EPIC MOMENT NOT ONCE BUT TWICE!

Nakakatawang araw para sa akin. Akala ko kaninang umaga na ninja ako. Nakagawian ko na kasi humabol ng jeep at manguna sa mga pasaherong mababagal tumakbo. Mabilis kasi ako pero hindi ko akalaing may magaganap na nakakahiyang pangyayari kanina.

Nauna akong tumakbo para habulin yung jeep, so in short may mga pasahero rin na nakabuntot sa akin. Pagtapak ko sa hagdanan ng jeep habang tumatakbo ito, huminto ito! Sh*t lang! Dahil don, nag-dive ako papasok sa jeep. Nauna nga ako pero nagdive naman ako sa loob, di ba nakakahiya? So dali-dali ako tumayo at umupo sa unahan ng jeep at kunwaring matutulog. Sa loob-loob ko, sh*t lang sayang porma ko. HAHAHA.

Yung ikalawang epic moment, nagkamali ako ng pasok ng room sa tinuturuan ko. Confident pa akong pinapaayos ang magugulo nilang silya pero hindi ko naman pala sila estudyante. :D

Nakakatawa lang talaga at nakakahiya. Kasama talaga to sa pagtanda. Hahaha.

Sito Longges

Never Be Afraid of Failure

Quote of the Day:

"Never be afraid to fail. Failure is only a stepping stone to improvement. Never be overconfident because that will block your improvement."

Tony Jaa

Full Body Massage and Burger Day!

So I forgot my diet today. We tried out a new resto near our place and had our full body massage to release some stress. :)

I love this day.

Quotes #28

Quotes #27

Professor of Physics Shows Concern

So I was looking up to another faculty member in our University. She's in her fifties and she's teaching Physics subject. I think she's a great teacher. 

She's laconic and not so sociable. I was really happy when she gave me an orange yesterday. I felt like I was kind of special. hahaha. I always greet her with a smile when I see her and reminds her about lunch. 

I was surprised when she stood up and searched something from her bag, she pulled out an orange and gave it to me. I thought that she did this because of what I always do when I see her. :) 

Let's make simple greetings and smile everyday to spread positive relationship with people. You will never know that someone will get contaminated with that awesome thing like Professor Physics. :)

Sito Longges

PAPJA 2016

I am now part of the PAPJA Convention not as a student but as a coach. I love this day. I love that I met new people and new friends! :) I am so blessed with good people.

FLATTERED TEACHER

I am flattered that my students from MTC requested me to be their lecturer in other subjects. :) This complete my day.

ON EGO: A THOUGHT

I think, you will not be affected with people who have ego problem. If you are not egotistic like them, there will be no reaction. 

A Night Well Spent

As usual, tired from work. But everything was relieved when I spent my night with my siblings. One of them will go back in Japan on Tuesday. I had a great night. :D

Photo Taken January 20, 2016 @Sons of Burger

ON GIVING UP

It is like I'm on the edge of giving up and ask myself, "Why am I doing all these things at once? I am making my more difficult! I should stop it." But at the end of the day, my dreams are more powerful than all these fatigues, and sleepless nights. 

I keep on saying this to myself:

The beginning is always the most difficult and there are no shortcut to success, every successful person suffers at the beginning, sucks at the beginning, tired at the beginning, but all these things are all worth it when you hit your goals and live your dreams.

You should not give up, too. Think of your future. Think of your biggest dream that awaits you. 

Sito Longges

MIDTERM EXAM AND SOME THOUGHTS

A tiring day for me yesterday. I administered midterm examinations to students. My day was inspiring also, some people that day kept me motivated by sharing their stories and by encouraging me to finish my thesis.

This is the moment that I really need motivation and inspiration. I am lucky that there are people around me who keep on helping me by providing some advice, words of encouragement, and knowledge. Without them, I am nothing. 

Sito Longges

Quotes#26

The background picture of the unknown quote must be credited to my girlfriend. She made  the crochet basket. I just posted it here since I am proud of her. Hahaha. I love all her work. :) She is just bored and decided to created something.

MGA ORAS NA NAIISIP KITA

"Ikaw ang babaeng gusto kong makasama sa tuwina, ang nag-iisang taong gusto kong kasabay na humiga at manood ng mga bituin at bulalakaw sa kalaliman ng gabi."

Quotes #25

FEATURED

I was featured in another blog on 17th day and I was able to compute my thesis work which I found out that all my two variables were highly correlated with the outcome. :)

Quotes #24

My Grandmother Died

I am not usually posting everything on my facebook because you know, it's facebook. So my grandmother just died this week and I just came home today from her wake. I am deeply sad because aside from we lost a gem from our family and clan, she was a great lost in her field. She is an intelligentsia and an author of English books in our country. She served in British Council as a consultant and a professor from a prestigious school. We lost her. 

I admired her, really. She remained humble in spite of her great achievements and she was kind to different people. She treated all of them equally and objectively. I want to be like her, someday.

I just can't believe she's gone. I was about to give her my thesis this month to check my grammar but now.... she's gone. :(

I looked her in the casket and I just realized that life is just so short. I remembered my student who once asked, "How does it feel when you're dead?"

I don't know of course, but I will. All of us will know it, soon. Life is short, enjoy every moment of your life.
I got 49 Christmas, 49 Summers, and estimated 17, 885 days given that I will die naturally (I hope)

Sad night and days for me because of what happened. I will get over this in a few days.

Sito Longges

Pressured

Days are counting, deadlines are coming, and I am petrified by fear. HAHAHA.

Review Center

I went earlier at Manila Tytana College to teach Theories of Personality course and to provide review examination for those students who aspire to be a psychometrician.

It went well. They very fortunate to study on that kind of institution. It is like everything is prepared, no problem with facilities, and conducive classroom.

I hope they will have the motivation to pass the board because lecturers only serve as a guide. They are still be the one who will choose their own path.

Tired.

Sito Longges

Quotes #23

Sometimes, we desire to help others without even helping ourselves first. This is why we feel so empty at the end of the day. Before we give something to others, we have to fill in something from ourselves first. 

MY 82 DAYS OF JOURNEY TO BOARD EXAM (PROCRASTINATION AND REVIEW)

Originally shared in psychometricpinas blog

May e-mail kasi akong nareceived after ng oath-taking,"Ano ba ginawa sa board exam?" 

Ayun. Buti nakapagdocument ako. Hehe. Hindi ko na kailangan pa ipaliwanag mga ginawa ko dahil sa mga larawang nakunan ko.

Hindi ako nakapagreview center kasi mahal. Bale, review lang talaga sa sarili gamit lumang books, ebooks, notes, tulong din ng online blogs tulad ng Philippine Psychometrician Reviewer (psychometricpinas.blogspot.com) at mabubuti kong kaibigan.

Naisipan kong magdocument ng pagrereview ko sa loob ng 82 days bago ako magtake ng exam sa dahilang naniniwala ako nang mga panahon na iyon na papasa ako (fighting spirit talaga lakas) at gusto kong maibahagi yung mga bagay na nangyari sa aking paglalakbay bago ako magtake ng board exam.

Maraming beses din naman akong nabigo magreview kaya puro pagkain ang highlight ng araw ko. Kung minsan nga cheesy days, status lang sa facebook, movie marathon or series marathon, lalabas kasama yung mga importanteng tao sa buhay ko, at paggawa ng requirements sa graduate school. Grabe, mapapansin mo nga sa mga unang araw pa lang ng nakatakdang documentation ko may pagkain na talaga na highlight. Kaya nga naging bilugan ang katawan ko. hahahaha. Wala na akong exercise rin niyan.

Kung susuriin ang mga larawan, makikita mong hindi lang ako naka-focus sa pag-aaral, makikita mong may mga ilang bagay rin akong pinagkakaabalahan. Minsan kasi okay lang naman aminin na hindi naman tayo super sipag, na mayroon ring mga araw na gusto natin maging masaya lang sa isang araw, na hindi lahat ng oras dapat na igugol natin ang sarili natin sa pag-aaral dahil kailangan din natin ang ibang bagay para mas umunlad tayo. Kung hindi ako nag give in sa kagustuhan kong subukan ang iba ng mga panahon na iyan baka masyado akong na-stress. Kailangan lang talaga na minsan mag-enjoy at minsan dapat na seryosohin ang mga bagay.Ibabalanse.

Gusto ko lang sabihin na huwag natin masyadong biglain ang sarili natin sa mga bagay na gusto nating makuha, kung minsan kahit paunti-unti okay lang naman. Hindi kailangan na magmadali. Saka wala naman magpepressure sa atin kundi sarili lang din natin kung hahayaan natin makinig sa sasabihin ng iba. Kung marami na silang narereview, hayaan niyo sila. May sarili kang oras, ang dapat mong gawin, gumawa ka ng sarili mong plan. Ikaw magdidisenyo. Pwede kang maglagay ng allowance na mag-enjoy ka at schedule na stringent. Basta dapat sa isang araw, kahit paano may nagawa ka, kung wala man siguraduhin na kinabukasan mababawi mo iyon.

Ito ang summary ng shinare ko sa SPARK Review Center noong 2015 nang mainvite ako para sa BLEPP 2015:

   1.    Set your goals

   2.    Document your review/ Monitor your progress

   3.    Eat a lot of healthy food

   4.    Procrastinate in judicious doses

Good luck sa susunod na magboboard exam! 

See the creative 82 days gallery before board exam, click here.

Quotes #22

Lucky Day

Namamaos talaga ako. Super. Hindi maganda ang boses ko, basag. Hindi rin gaanong makahinga dahil sa ubo na sinamahan pa ng byaheng pagkalayo-layo kaya sumama pakiramdam ko.Iba't-ibang nilalang din ang nakasalamuha ko, nakapalitan ng hininga sa MRT at LRT. Nagkapalitan rin kami ng pawis, pakiramdam ko pati piraso ng kanyang kaluluwa naiuwi ko pa. Grabe talaga siksikan. Mabuti kahit na ganoon, may magandang balita akong natanggap!

Magpepresent ako ng paper sa February sa PUP Paranaque Campus. Nakakatakot kasi higher officials ang panel pero tinanggap ko na rin yung challenge para magpursigi ako (pero ang dahilan talaga niyan para maging libre ako sa statistician haha). Kailangan kong matapos lahat sa katapusan. Libre na ang statistician at may discount sa grammarian! 

Isa pang good news na nakuha ko, libre ang training sa course ng statistics! Ito ay sagot ng bayan ng Paranaque na nagkakahalagang 10k per head! Hindi ko gagastusan ang sarili ko ng ganon na walang CPE points at mahal pa pero dahil libre, papayag ako! 

Swerte lang talaga ngayong araw. Sana bukas okay pakiramdam ko. Kasi ngayon, masama ang pakiramdam ko.

Good night!

Sito Longges

A Gift: Black Nazarene Rosary

Yesterday, I received a rosary from my student. It was the highlight of my day. I felt blessed. This gift came directly from the Black Nazarene feast and I am fortunate to have this since not all people have a chance to get near on that "Poon."

I WILL NEVER SLEEP COMFORTABLY

I am doing my thesis chapter 4. I think I have psychosomatic illness. I know because I got this instant cough and fever by the time I opened the file of my data and tried to analyze it.

I guess, I need to control my thoughts to cease this. I will not have enough sleep today but that's okay. When you want something, you prefer to wake up than to sleep. Reality is more beautiful now, though it's becoming more difficult than I thought. I keep in mind that there is no easy way to fulfill my dream. It's getting closer and closer. The more it gets closer, the more I realized that I have a lot of things to learn and to surpass. I have to build my character and to discipline myself even more.

They say, it's difficult and insane. I say yes, but it's all worth it.

Sito Longges

Another Blog

I am planning to create another blog which focuses on academic stuff. :D
I hope to fulfill it this year but first let me finish my thesis and get my diploma.

Thesis, Thesis, Thesis

I passed my examination and received 1.25. I am glad to have it! Sleepless nights, tiring moments, draining lessons, and struggle of graduate school are all worth it.

I am on my way to focus on my thesis. I need to finish it!

I am pressured. Waaaaaaa. Thesis it!

Sito Longges

Someone Just Loved my Tweet

I started my day right! By checking on my twitter while sipping my coffee. I found out that Dr. Andrea Letamendi liked my tweet. I was so happy. Hahaha.

I head off to university to meet, first time, my students in College of Communications at PUP Manila Campus. It went well and I think I can manage them. I didn't introduce myself too much, I just started my first ever lesson to them. Yeah, it seemed too late.

After class, I visited my professor (my coach) in Open University, talked to my previous professors, wrote a letter of application to be a faculty member of my school with the help of my ever-supporting former professor/friend/coach/chairperson, fixed the error in my SIS account and was able to know my grade in my Comprehensive Examination.

I got 1.25 on my exam! Woooo.

When everything was settled in school, I went directly to the wake of my friend's father and met my other close friends in college. We had a great night (actually it was already morning). Hahaha.

Freaks of the Universe

I had an awesome Friday.

Sito Longges

STATIC THAT APPEARS IN YOUR VISUAL FIELD

Have you encountered looking at your surrounding like having a static or snow? This condition is known as visual snow. I began to experience this when I was a child. I usually see this when the background was dark. It was not actually some disorder of the eye or problems in the brain. *don’t worry* But this condition appears to be a tendency of undetectable chemical imbalance in the brain.

Image Source

Until now, there is no known cause for VS but there are few things that offer specific causes that can lead to VS such as the use of legal and illegal drugs. Also, it was found out that migraine headaches are common in patients with VS. According to my research, there is no present treatment but many people tried to treat it with migraine medication, herbs, cleansing, acupuncture, and chiropractors with little or no success.

There is an ongoing research to hopefully cure it conducted by Dr. Goadsby and Dr. Schankin who strongly believes that they found the area of the brain responsible for VS. Their latest research was cited at eyeonvision.org. If you are interested to participate in this study you may contact them through e-mail at VS-Research@headache.ucsf.edu with the following information:

(the following information can be seen in the original post of eyeonvision.org)

Name
Address
Date of Birth (Day/Month/Year)
Telephone number

1) Please make a brief statement that you are willing to be contacted for research. This is a European data protection issue.
Example:      
"Yes, please keep my contact details and you may contact me for research purposes."

2) Brief description of all symptoms you relate to visual snow syndrome.
3) Short description of visual symptoms in own words:
4) Visual snow: what type (chose one):
- black and white (i.e. only black dots on white background, white dots on black background)
- clear (i.e. color of the background)
- flashing (i.e. always white, brighter than background)
- colored
-  all of these
5) Other symptoms (please only answer yes or no)

- After images
- Trailing of images in the vision
- Blue field entoptic phenomenon (i.e. white squiggly lines moving pulsating on the blue sky)
- Floaters in vision
- Colored clouds or waves with eyes closed
- Flashes of light
- Impaired night vision
- Sensitive to  light
- Tinnitus

I hope you find this interesting, feel free to share!

Sito Longges

You may want to check out some useful site for this and create awareness!

Visual Snow

http://eyeonvision.org/visual-snow.html

Melting the Myths of Visual Snow:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/overcoming-pain/201205/melting-the-myths-visual-snow

Definition of Visual Snow:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Visual_snow

Image: https://mevantiana.files.wordpress.com/2014/06/visual-dark.jpg

Gif Image: http://eyeonvision.org/images/vs-animated.gif

HOW I SPENT MY DAY

Today, I and my girlfriend went to a newly-opened home store in Antipolo, E-Home. I decided to buy some few things to add in my room and to organize my stuff.

I bought some mini cabinet for my little prof stuff, 2 cute mugs (for us), LED light for my lamp shade, prepared my bag for tomorrow's, and cleaned my desk. I also studied for my lecture tomorrow, and study my thesis (I hopefully to finish this).

Choosing some mugs. Photo taken at E-Home Antipolo Branch.

This is my mini office in my room.

I am also happy today because I got 1 thousand plus likes on my post and reached 30 thousand plus people in our page( Philippine Psychometrician Reviewer) and it is still counting. This is so far, the highest likes and reached that I received as an admin of that page. :)

My most liked post as of this moment. :D

This is how I spent my day, I am a little complete since I was able to see her again and maybe next next week we'll have time together but right now I am begging her to see her this weekend hahaha. Adult life sucks when you don't have a lot of time to spend it to someone you love. HAHAHAHA.


Lesson learned today:

Always organize your things.
Plan for tomorrow.
Have a little time to see your love. :D

Sito Longges

GREAT NIGHT WITH MY FAMILY

I was a bit tired of the day by talking one by one with my students to give them some feedback about their grades. It was part of my plan to have a feedback day on their grades, talk about it and to give it to them. They have the right to know it, and they need to understand how to compute their own grades. I gave them all their grades and taught them on how to compute it.

My point about this is to give them a glimpse on how professors compute their grades, what are the criteria and how their grades are affected by other criteria. It was all well. I hope I taught them the essence of it and I expect to have a progress on their grades since I informed them about how they performed on Preliminary Period.

After my duty, I was reminded by my sister about our date. I actually forgot it, good thing that she called me. We need to watch a film that day because it was all planned by my other sister. Half of my family watched it and they recommended it to the other half (the three of us, I, my mom and my sister) who wasn't able to see it due to hectic schedule. HAHAHA.

We watched "Beaty and the Bestie" by Vice Ganda (I actually don"t like it but they are fans of Showtime so I just agreed and see it). So I let myself watched it and it was awesome! I didn't expect that the jokes were new and the story was at least a little different from the previous movie of Vice. It was great. I didn't find any dull moments on that movie, I was laughing my ass off on my seat and I don't care since all of us in the audience were laughing.

Ticket of my sister, mother and yours truly

A great night indeed! Sometimes, I have to let myself watch those kinds of films to loosen up. 

Sito Longges

GETTING LOST AND THE GIFTS OF IT

Yes. I posted this a little late but I have proper documentation of my day! Yey! :)

I was lost on my 5th day of the year. I started my day as a nightmare and ended it great! I was lost going to work last time. I was lost because I tried a new route to save some money and just to try something new. It was really new to me, literally in everything! I got lost! The usual time for me from home to Paranaque was 2 hours. That day, it took me more than 4 hours! I was really tired and hungry that morning so I decided to eat and took a picture of my receipt.

My receipt on my 5th day.

When I was in school, I do my usual stuff. I was tired and actually not in a mood to teach but of course, I still do it and pretended like everything was so fine. I threw some jokes and discuss things about Psychology. Good thing, I was only teaching them the basic of it so I was confident and comfortable.

Amidst of the day, the checker informed me about my Christmas gift from the mayor that I haven't received last year and I need to take it home. SO GREAT! Yes, I have some simple gifts. :) She brought me in the faculty lounge a bag of goods and an umbrella. I was happy but there was one thing that thought when she handed the bag to me, HOW WILL I CARRY IT? *It was so heavy*

Small Things Matter

I ended my day great but tiring! Still, there was something great on my day, I got my gifts! :)

Lessons of the day:

1. Getting lost means finding yourself and new way of understanding the things around you. Sometimes getting lost means challenging someone's character. How will you approach something that you are not familiar with? Will you get frustrated? Will you approach it in a negative manner? As for me, that day I pretended that everything was okay and rationalized that at least I discovered a new routes going to my workplace.

2. When you approach a negative situation into positive, something good will happen. I was lost but I didn't lose my temper. I actually tried to eat and when I got to school, I got a chitchat with my co-faculties (I enjoyed being with them) and just do my job as usual! 

3. Do not let the negative situation to interfere your mood. 

Sito Longges 

"Ang Pantasya ni Eba"

Ito ay isang artikulo na isinulat ni CodeName: BLUEMAN21 sa kanyang blog. Marami kang matutunan dito, babaguhin niya ang iyong pananaw sa kasarian at sa mga karaniwang bagay na hindi mo maaaring naisip. Ipapakita rito ang kakaibang sitwasyon at perspektibo. Basahin:

Masaya at maayos ang buhay sa bayan ng Kagawasan. Ang babae ay kilos babae, at ang lalaki, kilos lalaki; nasa tamang lugar ang lahat. Bagamat pantay-pantay ang pagtingin nila sa kababaihan at kalalakihan, hindi sila naniniwala sa mga makabagong pananaw na pareho dapat ang kilos, ugali at papel ng babae at lalaki sa lipunan.

Babae ang Pangulo ng Kagawasan. Babae rin ang mga opisyal na nasa mahahalagang posisyon ng gabinete, tulad ng Kagawaran ng Patakarang Pangkabuhayan, Industriya at Kalakal. Babae ang mga sundalo, ang mga negosyante, ang mga pari ng simbahan. Babae ang mga manggagawa, magsasaka, mangingisda, at propesyonal.

Nararapat lamang ito, dahil iyan ang papel na itinakda ng Diyos Ina para sa mga babae. Kaya nga’t biniyayaan ng Diyos Ina ang Kababaihan ng Kagawasan ng mga katangiang angkop sa kanilang mahalagang pananagutan sa lipunan: ang matalas na isip at kakayahang magpasiya, ang lakas at katatagan ng kalooban, ang lakas ng katawan.

Ang mga lalaki naman ang maybahay. Sila ang nag-aalaga ng mga anak: total, may likas silang katangiang mapagmahal at mapag-aruga. Sila rin ang biniyayaan ng mga kamay na mas may resistensya sa init, kung kaya’t mahuhusay silang magluto. Kasiyahan nila ang pagsilbihan ang kanilang mga asawa at mga anak. Bagamat hindi sila kumikita sa ganitong klaseng gawain, sinusuportahan naman sila ng kanilang asawa bilang kapalit sa kanilang serbisyo. Kinikilala rin naman ng lipunan ang kanilang mahalagang kontribusyon: sila ang tinaguriang “ilaw ng tahanan” at taun-taon binibigyan sila ng bulaklak tuwing Araw ng mga Ama.

Ang ganitong pagkakahati ng trabaho sa lipunan, at ang pagkakaiba ng likas na pag-uugali ng babae at lalaki, ay alinsunod sa pagkakaiba ng kanilang mga katawan. Tanda ng lakas at katatagan ng kababaihan ang kanilang kakayahang magdala ng bata sa kanilang sinapupunan, at tiisin ang sakit at hirap ng pagluluwal nito. Ang kanilang papel bilang mga manggagawa sa lipunan ay nakabatay rin dito, at sa kanilang kakayahang magpasuso sa mga bata: hindi ba’t panganganak at ang pagkakaroon ng gatas para sa anak, ay isang uri ng produksyon?

Pati ang anyo ng aring pangreproduksyon ay naaayon sa kanilang papel bilang manggagawa, mangangasiwa, at tagapagpasiya sa lipunan. Ang ari ng babae at nakatago, kung kaya’t hindi madaling masaling; malaya silang nakagagalaw. Papaloob ang direksyon nito, sagisag ng kanyang kakayahang pagmuni-munihan ang mga bagay-bagay at magbigay ng mahusay na kapasiyahan. Sa pagtatalik, ang ari niya ang sumasakop sa ari ng lalaki, sagisag din ng kanyang pananagutang sakupin ang mundo. Gayon din ang posisyon sa pagtatalik na nakapagbibigay sa kanya ng higit na kasiyahan: siya ang nangingibabaw sa lalaki tulad ng pangingibabaw niya sa kalikasan.

Samantala, dahil walang kakayahan ang lalaking magdalantao at magpasuso, at dahil ang babae na ang nagsusugal ng buhay sa panganganak, makatarungan lamang na sa kalalakihan na ipaubaya ang pag-aalaga at pagpapalaki sa mga anak. Bukod pa rito, nalilimitahan ang kanilang mga galaw ng kanilang ari: di tulad ng sa babae, nakalawit ito at madaling mabasag.

Kita rin naman sa kanilang ari ang kakulangan nila sa kakayahan sa mahalagang pagpapasiya: dahil nakalabas ito, may kababawan silang mag-isip at hindi ganoong magaling magtago ng mga sekreto. Kung kaya’t nababagay silang magpasiya tungkol sa mga bagay na hindi na dapat pagkaabalahan pa ng mga babae, tulad ng kulay ng kurtina. Gayon din, ang posisyon nila sa pagtatalik ang nagpapakita kung ano ang papel nila sa lipunan: sila ang nakatihaya, naghihintay habang tinatrabaho ng asawa. Dahil sa akto ng pagtatalik napapaloob ang kanilang ari sa ari ng babae, laging sinasabi sa kanila kapag sila’y ikinasal: “Magpasakop kayo sa inyong mga asawa…”

Sa kagawasan, isang masayang pangyayari ang pagkakaroon ng anak na babae: “Hayan,” wika ng mga ina, “may magdadala na ng pangalan ko.” At nangangarap na sila sa pagiging Pangulo balang araw ng kanilang anak. Masaya rin sana ang pagkakaroon ng anak na lalaki, dahil magkakaroon ng isa pang katulong sa gawaing-bahay ang mga ama; ngunit kung bakit napapaluha ang mga ama kapag nakitang lalaki ang kanilang mga supling at nabibigkas ang: “Heto na ang isa pang pambayad sa kasalanan!”

Gusto kong marinig ang inyong mga komento ukol dito. :) 

Note: Maaaring bisitahin ang kanyang blog dito.
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BACK TO WORK

On my first day of work this year, I came back with some unfinished business like administration of preliminary examination to my students of Psychology course, checking their home works and projects, providing some assistance, grading their works, and recording it. To be honest, my mind is not still in condition for work. (I still have hangover of my vacation) And for the first day of the year, I have received a message reminding me for my review lecture for board examinations on another school in Manila (Woah. I have to condition my mind now, it is a serious work for board examinations).

I still need to slap my face to wake up by now. Coffee is not enough to wake me up. I need motivation! I still need to finish my thesis and to train my students for the upcoming contest for the national quiz bee. Wahahaha. Oh, I forgot, I have to go to the mountains also to meet the leader of the tribe for the research work of my students and other work-related things to do.

Phew! This is the moment when I really wanted to regress being a child. HAHAHA. I admit, there are moments in my life that I want to take a lot of breaks and to be like a child HAHAHA. Sometimes, things are not syncing into my mind that I am an adult doing adult things which I have to face because I am a grownup. HUHUHU. I miss being a kid and I regret the moments that I am not sleeping well during my childhood. I remember the time when I have to pretend that I am sound asleep just to avoid being spanked by my lola (Filipino word meaning grandmother) and moments that I sneaked out our house just to play outside.

Sitting at my desk

Well, I think I need to remind myself about facing big duties. I have to face it squarely and to avoid piling up of workloads. Pile of works equates to distress, distress which leads to old age, and I am not ready to face old age.

Things will be more challenging this year, I know. I already did some of my works last year to avoid piling up of my works. I think, I am ready to face it all (I have to even if I felt that I wanted to regress hahaha).

I want to hear something from you. How’s your first day of work this year?

Sito Longges

START THE YEAR WITH A BLAST!

We left our home at exactly 3: 35 AM (we were so excited! That’s why!), our call time for 5k run was 6:20 AM. When we arrived in SM Mall of Asia Grounds at 5: 40 AM, a lot of people were already there preparing and having their short warm ups. All of us were excited and were motivated to run! It was not actually a race where there is only one winner. The awesome thing about this event is it encourages social activity, to enjoy the moment and not to compete with others. 

I joined this race to accomplish something cool this year and to start off my year right! And of course, its unique theme captivated me to join this, the Carnival Tour! *Isn't it cool to start your year wild, colorful, and unique?*

During the race, various colors were exploded to us on each station. The happiest colors that threw at us were yellow, blue, green, purple, orange. Honestly, the colors helped me a lot to not notice that I am already finished with my race. I didn't even feel tired during the event, I even got the chance to dance with my friends. lol. I just only felt that I am tired when I got home today.

I will never forget this colorful and wild moment of running with colors! The shouts and celebration of the crowd were really crazy, indeed, you will get the so called “happy-spirit fever” and it was so contagious! We released all the colors from our packets all together on mark and then we were all crazy during the rave party (blending in the crowd) with tainted colors on our faces and bodies! The party unleashed our hidden moves and it was all fun! (perhaps, it was due to mesmerizing sounds and crowd) :D

Here are some of the photos that I captured during the event:

With my friends:

With Cool peeps, Girlie and Jezebon.

With this awesome girl, Karen. 

Yes! I finished this race!

I love it!

I will definitely join this next time! It was a race slash rave party! Hahaha.

To know more about this awesome race, visit their website:

www.colormanilarun.com

PARA SA MGA MAHILIG HUMUGOT SA TINDAHAN

Siyempre, hindi lang naman mga tindera ang nagsasawa sa mga bumibili ng hugot. Haha. Nakakatuwa ang mga hugot, promise! Isa rin ako sa mahilig bumanat noong 2015! Gusto ko pa ng  hugot pero sa ibang paraan naman! Nauumay na ako sa pabili nga po. Bwahahaha. Excited na ako sa taon ngayon para sa mga nakakatuwa pang hugot. Ang maghuhugot sa tindera, nako wag kayong ano.  Itutulad ko kayo kay Clara!

Sana may bago akong hugot na makita. Sure yon, ipopost ko rito o kaya comment na lang ng interesting na hugot. Pero para sa mga may gusto, follow nyo @hugotstore sa twitter o kaya like niyo ang page ng The Promdi Boy Adventures na talagang pumatok noong 2015 at hanggang ngayon nga yata! :D

Ito yung ilan sa mga hugot ni Promdi Boy:

Ayos, di ba? Hindi naman sa lahat ng oras seryoso ako, marunong din akong maka-appreciate ng jokes! Sana sa 2016 mas marami pa akong makita! :D

Sito Longges

SOME SONGS FOR COURTING YOUR GIRL

Yes. I love songs that seemed like a serenade song and it is because I used to play guitar. :) Anyway, I would like to share it here. Just click in the title of the songs to listen and decide. If you don't like it, just leave it or comment below which I will really appreciate.

Here's my favorite list of songs that I think some girls will love when someone try to use any of these to them, all songs are in no particular order:

1. Pretend - Scott Porter ft. Glory Dogs
It is from the movie "Bandslam".

Favorite lines:

"They told me maybe she's crazy a little like you
Everyone said you were nothing but trouble and
All that I know is that I've never been here before
And no, I'll never leave, if it's alright with you
Dreaming of oceans while jumping in puddles and
All of my life I pretend you where there by the door
I don't need to pretend any more."

2. Heart Like Yours - Willamette Stone
Coming from the movie "If I Stay."

Favorite lines:

How could a heart like yours
Ever love a heart like mine?
How could I live before?
How could I have been so blind?

You opened up my eyes
You opened up my eyes

3. Kiss Me Slowly - Parachute
Well, I just like this. I love to listen to this up to now.

Favorite lines:

Well, I'm not sure what this is gonna be,
But with my eyes closed all I see
Is the skyline, through the window,
The moon above you and the streets below.
Hold my breath as you're moving in,
Taste your lips and feel your skin.
When the time comes, baby don't run, just kiss me slowly.

4. Marry Me - Jason Derulo
It can be played in guitar. This is awesome also. :)

Favorite lines:

Wake up every morning with you in my bed
That's precisely what I plan to do, yeah.

5. Statue - Lil Eddie
Who would not fall for this? Tell me! This one is a romantic song for someone you love. And yes, I am the luckiest man alive since I have someone. HAHAHA.

Favorite lines:

When a day is said and done,
In the middle of the night and you're fast asleep, my love.
Stay awake looking at your beauty,
Telling myself I'm the luckiest man alive.

6. What You Mean to Me - Sterling Knight
This song was known for the movie "Starstruck."

Favorite lines:

Here I am with all my heart
I hope you understand
I know I let you down
But I'm never gonna make
That mistake again
You brought me closer
To who I really am
Come take my hand
I want the world to see
What you mean to me
What you mean to me

7. Locked Away - R City ft.  Adam Levine

Favorite lines:

If I got locked away
And we lost it all today...
Tell me honestly...
Would you still love me the same?
If I showed you my flaws
If I couldn't be strong
Tell me honestly
Would you still love me the same?

8. Runaway - Bruno Mars

Favorite lines:

Let's runaway for the day
Don't need anyone around us
When everything in love gets so complicated,
It only takes a day to change it.
What I have to say can't wait
All I need is a day

I hope you like my list. I am sorry that I didn't include "All of Me" by Johnny Legend and "Thinking Out Loud" by Ed Sheeran, I feel like these songs are too mainstream in our country. Do you have any other songs that I could listen to?

Sito Longges