Sa mundo na maraming maingay, magulo, at laging "kailangang patunayan ang sarili", hayaan mong magkaroon ka ng lugar na kung saan magiging totoo at malaya ka.
Hayaan mo sila. Hindi mo na kailangan patunayan pa na importante ka kasi mahalaga ka. Tandaan mo iyan.
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My personal blog of sudden thoughts, ideas, realizations, and some issues that I would like to share with anyone.
Friday, June 30, 2017
IKAW SA GITNA NG SIGALOT NG MUNDO
Sunday, June 25, 2017
BAHAGHARI: IBIG KONG UMIBIG
“Mag-anak ka kahit isa.”
“Sinong mag-aalaga sa’yo kapag tumanda ka?”
“Sayang!”
“Alam mo naman, hindi ka ikakasal, di ba?”
Monday, June 19, 2017
KAILAN BA SASAPAT?
Tuesday, June 13, 2017
Sunday, June 11, 2017
TAHAN NA
Tama na. Tahan na, mahal. Ito na yung bukas na iyon. Bumangon ka na. 🙂
Ayos lang kung di ka pa masaya. Huwag mong pilitin...sa ngayon, tahan na. Unti-unti nating aalisin ang anino ng takot, babasagin ang kadena ng lungkot, at susubukan nating hawiin ang ulap. Unti-unti...hindi mabilis pero unti-unti susubukan natin. Susubukan mo. Gigising ka tuwing umaga at matutulog ng may bitbit na pag-asa.
Tutulungan kita, sasayaw tayo sa malamlam at magulong tugtog ng daigdig tapos hahawakan ko ang mga kamay mo. Hahayaan mo kong malaman pa ang kwento mo at lilibutin ko ang mundo mong dahan-dahang gumuho. Hindi mo kasalanan ito at hindi mo kailangan na pasan ito. Hindi mo kailangang mag-isa. Bubuhatin natin ito at susubukan nating lagyan ng buhay muli ito, basta't hahayaan mong palayain ang sarili mo kasabay ng pagtitiwalang may buhay pa na naghihintay sa'yo...
Masakit ang umasa pero aasa ako na baka isang araw hindi ka na magmamadali pang matapos ang araw...dahil sa wakas! Naisip mong nandito ako!
KASARINLAN
Friday, June 9, 2017
Monday, June 5, 2017
Sunday, June 4, 2017
MY CONFESSION
DAPAT KAYANIN KASI PSYCH MAJOR AKO. Sa totoo lang, mental health advocate ako, may MA plus nagtuturo na. Pressured? Yes! Takte dapat maayos ako e. But I realized, I'm still a person with feelings. Tao lang ako. I still need to have someone or to have friends with people who will never judge me kung ano ang nararamdaman ko hindi dahil sa inaral ko ang Psychology. Alam niyo yun? I think, kaya yata ako nasa field na ito kasi I want to help myself and to know myself na hindi naman ako binigo. Nakilala ko sarili ko, mas minahal ko sarili ko at mas marami akong natutunan na coping mechanisms. That's why, surprised ako kapag may nakakausap ako at may problem siya na sinabi sa akin tapos sasabihin niya..."Tama! Yan nga!" Minsan di ko lang masabi kasi na-feel ko rin yan. Charot. I learned a lot sa course ko like how to remove your bias, to just listen to someone's problems, to empathize, and others.
Minsan binibisita ako ng mga nararamdaman ko kapag mag-isa lang ako. Minsan na lang talaga. I think, ako yung tinatawag na high-functioning person that's why you won't believe me when I say I have problems, too. That's okay. Kaya ko naman na talaga. I seek help when I really need help.
Kaya sobrang happy ako kapag may natutulungan at may hindi nagcocommit ng suicide dahil sa simpleng usapan namin saka sa pagadvice ko na magseek siya ng help. Walang masama naman na humingi ng tulong dahil tao ka.
Here's my few experiences (brief):
Age 17- Bombarded by problems; I stopped schooling; I had suicidal ideations, I really wanted to end it in different ways.
Age 18- Fortunately started another life at new school with new course
Age 19- Dreamt of being part of a quiz bee team because I was inspired in PAPJA
Age 20 - Rejected by professors because they see me as an average student in spite of winning in departmental quiz bee; We lost in national quiz bee; discouraged by the chairperson to join again; I cried tons of tears and I felt like I'm bobo and useless
Age 21- I'm stubborn so as my friends, with the help of our coach (actually di namin prof talaga that time siya rin si prof na tumulong on our first fight) we tried again; we made it to the top ten and we're part of university newsletter.
And so on...struggles sa paghahanap ng work, rejected multiple times, something happened at our home and I can't stay there, I lived in a different home for a while, stressed out sa graduate school tapos stressed out pa sa personal problems, jobless pa rin, homaygahd may board pa wala kong pera pang review, etc.
In short, life is a series of struggles and a series of winning those struggles. Learn to celebrate when you surpassed your obstacles, and cheer yourself up!
One of the most important lesson in life that I've learned as of this moment:
Don't give up because you have no idea what awaits in the future. Soon, you'll know your purpose in life. Sa ngayon, lumaban ka!
BLEPP 2017: REQUIREMENTS FOR RPsy
BLEPP 2017: REQUIREMENTS FOR RPms
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PROVE THEM WRONG
Friday, June 2, 2017
Challenge = Mastery
I observed when you're performing well (industrial or academic setting), superiors tend to put too much work loads on you. Distressing, right?
Well, let's just take all these things as a challenge and a way to enhance our skills. It's not our loss, anyway. It's an advantage. A brain that's working hard will never go back to its former dimension rather it becomes flexible! Stretch it by doing novel activities and let your dendrites extend to other areas of the brain for more neural connections. 🤓
All new activities are uncomfortable and difficult at first, but sooner or later, they are no longer a problem. It will be just another skill that you've just acquired.
Bear in mind, all masters suck at first and they all started as a beginner. Just don't forget to manage your time as well as self-care ha! 🙂
Thursday, June 1, 2017
OPPORTUNITIES FOR RPms/Psych Graduates
FIGHT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT
Johnny Depp
(c) Vision Wall
This is true and it's funny. Of course, you'll forgive them but you'll never forget how they made you feel useless by implicitly show that you're not enough.
These people look at you as someone that they can't use because you're only a fresh graduate without any connections and work experience but let me remind you... You are important! You have something! You have potentials!
You have head full of hopes and ideas. Don't lose it. Don't be discouraged. It's a difficult road but you'll be there soon...You just need to fight and continue to move forward! Even small steps will do. If ever you lose your hope because you felt like you're stupid on your first interview, that's okay! It's a difficult learning experience but it's something that we need to accept.
I cried tons of tears and chided myself for failing various interviews but I didn't give up. I continued to better myself everyday (until now I'm still learning), I rehearsed my script (yes I have script, I did it. I searched for various questions and answered it based on my own OJT experience and based on the needs of the company), and I even practiced nonverbal gestures (to act confidently and normal as possible). I have to do it. I have to do impression management and act as if I'm confident but deep down I struggled and impatient to get the position. Of course, I don't show it during interviews but it haunted me when I'm in my solitude.
To cut the story short, I made it. Then, a series of opportunities progressed.
Don't give up. One day, you'll work with people who refused to accept you before. They'll find you because they need you.
Work hard, work smart, and work until those people who discouraged, hurt, refused, and challenged you seek your help.
There's always something that awaits in the future so don't give up now. It's too early to concede. It may be hard for now since you're clouded with doubts, problems, and other things, but soon...you'll be there.
Fight!