Sito Longges: The Fault in Our New Year's Resolution

There is nothing bad about setting goals, right? But I saw a lot of people setting goals to only disappoint themselves. What is wrong with new year’s resolution? Or should I say, what is wrong with us when setting new year's resolution?

Here are some things that most of us fail to see in setting and achieving our goals:

Focus on your strong points. We usually want to change bad things about ourselves; we neglect important things like our forte. According to Harvard Psychologist, Amy Cuddy, "you're eliciting in yourself negative emotions. Some negative emotions are motivating, but for the most part, they're not." If you say, "I'm going to stop eating junk food," to use an example, you're denigrating yourself before even getting started. You're better off framing your goal as "eating healthier" so that you'll remain motivated and optimistic.

In short, refrain from stating negative goals. Promote positive statements to evoke positive results!

Focus on process rather than results. We must focus on ways or methods to achieve our goals than the outcomes of our goals. Instead of saying, “I want to earn a lot of money,” say to yourself, “I will save my money, buy only necessary things, and I will meet the deadlines in my work.”

With these statements, you are setting goals that are more realistic and it provides methods or ways to keep your money.

In financial aspect advice, sometimes the reason why we lose money is not because we are not earning enough. Most of the time, we forget how to do proper allocation and we forget ways in saving our money. Most of us tend to spend more than we actually earn! That’s bad! You will eventually enslave yourself with debts. Be practical and be wise.

Try to start creating simple goals. With these, you are creating more realistic and achievable goals. For example, "I want to be thin." Instead of saying "I want to be thin," try to think of simple goals that urges you to become thin or, having a healthier physique.

Examples of Things I Want to Achieve

1. "I will eat healthier food." Jot down a list of possible healthy food that you want to buy in the market or grocery.

2. "I will do exercise." Do not limit your exercise such as sit-ups and running three times a week. You are only trying to pressure yourself with these unbelievable goals. You will end up only doing more of a lip service than a performer. Stop stating numbers, just do what you want to do and always give your best shot.

But if you are really good at setting specific numbers and beating it because you find it more thrilling, why not? Do things that you are more comfortable but be sure that you will actually do those things. As for me, I am better at doing simple things. Simple goals are like ladders that help me achieve easily the desired level. Simple goals are simple steps, simple steps that will soon help me move on top.

Most of the time, we set absolute, perfect, and unrealistic goals. Make it more realistic in order for you to achieve it. If you set goals that are too high, there is a tendency for you not to achieve it and it will only create anxiety and disappointments.

Be happy with simple accomplishments. These simple accomplishments when combined are BIG. Love simple things and simple activities, sometimes these simple things are actually GREAT things that most of us overlook.