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CHEERS TO 75 THOUSAND BLOG VIEWS!

I am inspired to blog about the things that others might find helpful to them. In 2017, I will be posting more blogs about my journey in becoming a psychologist. I will document everything. My thoughts, pains, sadness, celebration, joys, etc. 

How I plan to lose some things in my life by weighing a lot of things, the responses I got from others because of my decisions, how I manage to overcome my predicaments, how to keep my sanity in spite of my own struggles that I never shared with anyone except for the someone I love, and  my strategies in time- management, studies, etc.

I just hope all hard work will be paid off soon. I hope you will join me in my rough road to fulfilling my dreams.

Sito Longges

NOTE TO SELF: ANG TITULO AY PALAMUTI

No matter how many titles you have earned or achievements you have fulfilled, at the end of the day, you will be remembered based on how you made an impact on other peoples' lives. You will be remembered based on your character. 

So always keep our feet on the ground.

Ika nga ng prof ko noon, "palamuti lang ang mga titulo" kapag nabubuhay tayo pero hindi naman maisasama sa libingan natin. Pero hindi naman ibig sabihin na hindi na paghuhusayan. Huwag lang ilalagay sa ulo, ika niya.

Words from wise professor to tyro like me.  #notetoself

BEAUTY IS ONLY SKIN DEEP

We are confused.

We are taught that "beauty is only skin deep" but we make fun of others because of their appearance and we use them to elevate ourselves. In fact, doing so will only exemplify our fear and insecurities.

Ironically, surveys have shown that most people consumed cosmetics because "Hey, it's no big deal. Beauty is only skin deep."

HOPE RUN 2016: RUN FOR A CAUSE

I made it!

There is hope.

This one is just a simple movement to be connected with people who advocate the rights of people with exceptional needs.

It was a challenging run. I felt a little pain which eventually turned into a numb feeling in my toes. I was fortunate to run with someone who is always there to support me in all of my advocacies and hobbies, I didn't notice that we reach the end.

I realized that I am not alone and I don't need to compete with them. I have to be with them. I need to reconnect with people because that's how the world works and that's how people will feel safe, loved, and important. Sometimes, it's good to be surrounded with people. I guess, it's what George Kelly termed as Sociality Corollary.

Again, it's just my simple way to express that I exist, I am here with people and that no matter how hard life is...there is hope.

#HOPErun2016 #HOPE #BeAHero #10kFinisher

QUASI-EXPERIMENT ON GRAPEVINE

It is normal for people to share their thoughts, ideas, opinions, and even secrets to others. By sharing a portion of yourself to others, somehow, connects you to them and creates a sense of belongingness to the group or to someone. It builds trust especially when you obtain a favorable feedback from the person you talked to. Unfortunately, not all people are interested in your life and not all people can be trusted. Some are curious about the things that you share and they don’t upkeep with the consequences of their actions such as passing a message that was intended for them to keep. The communicated message passed down from person to person that were often distorted is known as grapevine.

There are different patterns of grapevine but I will no longer discuss this on my blog. But the pattern of my grapevine based on what I received was single-stranded wherein one person passed it onto another person until the message was received by other people.

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THE STORY

There were two groups in this quasi-experiment. Group A are students of mine whom I trusted since I have been with them for more than a year and Group B are my current students where I only interact every once a week.

GROUPS:

A – Seniors whom I trusted since I have been with them for more than a year

B – Juniors where I only interact every once a week

The story was assigned differently to two groups. Both stories were true in a sense that I plan to resign in my current school this coming 2017. The stories were somehow different since Group A received a message where I emphasized that I didn’t accept the advisees in research for Juniors since I will transfer to a different school because of the organizational culture, pay, etc. while Group B received a message wherein I declined to become their adviser since I might resign this 2017 to pursue my Ph.D. and to have my clinical practice.

Surprisingly, within a week I received the message coming from the dean asking me if the rumors were true. She stated that the message came from one of my colleagues who received the message to one of my students (where the identity of the student was hidden). Apparently, based on the structure of the message that I created. I know where it came from and specifically the person who spread the gossip. I don't have any problem if that person spread it since I am prepared about the consequences of what I did. I just hope this person learn to handle some issues in strict confidence about things especially if someone entrusted a concern.

MY THOUGHTS

I am disappointed to know that the outcome of my small quasi-experiment validated the findings that gossip often emanated from someone close to you. The result of this mini quasi-experiment only proved that you cannot trust people even those whom you believe are loyal to you. You have to choose wisely those people you interact with.

Sometimes, it is fine to use white lies to temporarily cover up your plans so that others don’t have any idea about you if you wish to keep it a secret. In my case, I am planning to be vocal about this after the results since I am not used to telling a lie when someone asks me something about me.

In the future, it is better to keep a distance from people and be mindful of drawing the line.

HOPE FOR TOMORROW

Yes, there's always hope. Don't mind what others might think of you, they are just distractions. If ever someone just dropped you, move on. They don't deserve you anymore. People just come and go so as problems in life, so you need to get used to it. It's a cycle.

Some people are meant to just teach you some life lessons that you won't forget, as experience to let you know what the world is all about.

Focus on what you love and what drives you to become a better person. Focus on people who are always there for you when times get tough. ✌👏💪

Erratum on image: Tomorrow

I love the font and the image that's why.

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